Moderation

Hi y’all, ready for the next of the Nine Virtues?  This one is one of my favorites. Moderation, what is it and why is it important?  As usual, I’ll ask my good friends Merriam and Webster what they think.

1a: avoiding extremes of behavior or expression: observing reasonable limits.

b:calm, temperate

3:not violent, severe, or intense

Obviously, there is more to the definition, but I picked out the parts related to our discussion. Also, this is for moderate, not moderation. The site kept redirecting me to moderate everytime I searched for moderation.

So, what does this mean to me?  It means that we should be careful to not let ourselves get unbalanced. We must make sure that we don’t under or over do anything. Moderation is dependant on the person as well. Something that is moderate for me could be overdoing for you and underdoing it for someone else. If this sounds familiar, it’s because Aristotle said something very  similiar many years ago. Learning our limits is important, since it is hard to know what is moderate for us if we don’t know our limits. 

On to why moderation is important. It is important because going to extremes is bad for us, for our health, our wealth, and our happiness. Eating too much makes us fat and too little makes us unhealthily thin. Reacting to our emotions is similar, too much and we are shouting at our loved ones over a trivial matter and too little allows stress to build up until you explode. Either way adds to stress, which is not good for our health. It doesn’t matter what it is, we must use our wisdom to be moderate in what we do, including moderation.

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Perserverance

Today, I will talk about what perserverance means and why it is important. Also, it’s all downhill from here. Very soon, I’ll have to find something else to write about. With a bit of luck, I’ll have something when the time comes.

I know I keep doing this, but let’s see what Merriam and Webster have to say.

continued effort to do or achieve something despite difficulties, failure, or opposition. 

the action or condition or an instance of perservering.

I’m going on a slight diversion before continuing. This is another example of something I hate about dictionaries. They define words using the word itself; well, near enough. What does it mean to perservere?  It means to perservere. That is a terrible definition. Anyway, rant over.

Perservering is continuing to do  something even when it gets hard or boring. It is doing what nees to be done, even if you don’t want to do  it. This requires wisdom to know whether this is something that should be continued. Perserverance requires courage because it can become difficult. Courage is the strength needed to keep on going. Integrity helps by giving you focus and inner strength. 

Why is perserverance important?  It is how things get done. It is how governments, companies, and other organizations exist. They all require people with perserverance. It and courage are why I’m alive today. Without them, I’d have killed myself a long time ago. Sometimes, life gets hard, really hard. I mean, you can be in a position where it doesn’t look like you can keep going. I’ve said before, a good part of why I’m still here is my stubbornness. Plus, I’ve been lucky. 

People kill themselves because they can’t see a way forward. Without help, they may never see a solution. They, often, don’t want to kill themselves, but they see no other way forward. And, they believe that the world would be better off without them. How do I know this?  Because I’ve been there more than once. If you are a friend of someone who has been this way, please perservere in that friendship, especially  when it gets hard. Your mere presence in their life could be enough to keep them alive.

And, since I brought suicide up, if you are feeling like this, please call or text or Facebook message someone. Your friend, your lover, your therapist, a crisis or help line. Please, they do help. I’ll not lie nd say there are all perfect, but, keep reaching out, it will help.

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline number is 1-800-273-8255.

Integrity

Hello all!  Welcome back to another of my rambly posts. This week is integrity. What does it mean?  Why is it important?

Let’s start with Monsieurs Merriam and Webster. There really is no particular reason why I use them instead of another dictionary, but since I have used them in the past, I will continue for the sake of consistency.

1: firm adherence to a code of especially moral or artistic values

2: an unimpaired condition

3: the quality or state of being complete or undivided

Another one that is rather short, but contains a lot. One and three are very important to what integrity means here, and I think they are connected. So, let’s dive into three first. This is to be mentally and emotionally whole. To be you as best as you can. While you do have to filter yourself depending on where you are and who is around you, you shouldn’t be lopping parts off of yourself to make other people happy. Integrity means not selling off pieces of your soul. You bring all of you to everything you do. That is the most important part of this. Not hiding parts of yourself or trying to excise them. You’re going to bring your self everywhere you go, so you may as well understand it and be aware of it. I realize that some things aren’t appropriate in different situations, hence the filtering. Maybe that is a bad word, but it’s as close as I can find. You focus on those parts you need for where you are is what I mean. This requires a lot of courage because it is not easy to be who you are.

On to number one!  This is tied up with wisdom and courage. Wisdom should be used to determine what your values are and knowing what it means to stick to them. Wisdom helps you know when to compromise and when to stick to your guns. Courage is being able to compromise when you should and sticking to your guns when you need to. Both require courage because there are times when neither are easy. Living a life where you stay true to your values is what integrity is all about.

Why is integrity important?  Because without it, you’ll do as I have done through much of my life. You will barter away parts of yourself until nothing is left. All that will be left is a mix of what different people expect of you and a longing to know who you are. Trust me on this, it sucks to live this way. It’s not even really living. It is just existing. You won’t know what you really want and that is no way to live. A life with integrity is hard and rewarding. You will have self-respect. You will be able to look at yourself in the mirror and say that you are a good person. Why?  Because you will be living out your values. You will be living your life. And that is too important to let fall by the wayside.